FAQ

‘Engine – Er’ by Lester Goldman, 2003 (used with permission from the Estate of Lester Goldman)

Tell me a little about the free consultation.
The first time we connect is through a complimentary phone call usually about 30-minutes long. This is an opportunity to learn a little about each other.

Research supports the idea that the most significant factor in a successful counseling outcome is the relationship between you and the counselor. Often this appears to matter much more than the counselor’s training, practice philosophy, or the kinds of challenges faced. For this to work well, you need to feel at ease and completely comfortable with no judgment or stress to perform. You want to feel understood and accepted for the sacred person that you are.

This meeting allows me to determine whether the two of us working together is a good fit. I want to feel assured that I can help you, and if not, I want to be able to refer you to others who can.

To schedule an initial complimentary phone call (without picking up the phone), please click here.

What hours are you open?
As of September 2021, I have some one hour session openings Thursdays and Fridays between 8am and 4pm (EST) as well as Sunday afternoons. Evening hours on Wednesdays are possible as well.

How do I contact you?
Either call/text 610.742.6419 or write to me at neil@griefandlosssupport.com. You can also book a short (complimentary) consultation call by clicking HERE.

How long are sessions?
Sessions are one full hour.

How many sessions will I need?
It varies considerably and the support plan is tailored to the individual. Some wish to be connected for many months, others for less.

Please know that it is critically important for me to help you transition to your life without my support, when the time comes.

How often would I typically see you?
Once a week or once every two weeks is most common. However, there are clients who prefer, especially early on in the work, to be seen a few times a week. There are a variety of options available and scheduling is flexible.

Do you take insurance?
No, I don’t take insurance. I am happy to provide receipts, if needed.

What is your cancellation policy?
If a session is canceled without 24-hours notice, the full session fee is charged. This is a standard practice in the profession.

What age range and gender do you see?
I work with people 18 to 108 years of age and with any gender.

Do you offer online, phone, and in-person sessions?
Yes, all of these options are offered. Clients choose what option best meets their needs.

Do you work with individuals who have experienced a loss that is unrelated to a death?
Emphatically yes. Loss may meet all of us in some form or another when experiencing significant change or transition—encountering a life-altering illness, on the tailwinds of divorce or separation, or loss of job or status to name a few.

Support work is the beginning of a process of reclamation and redemption, an opening towards reshaping loss, and finding consolation, hope, and resourcefulness.

How do you work with individuals?
I help you develop the coping tools, energy and resourcefulness needed to reduce the destabilizing pain of loss.

Together, we’ll gently process and integrate the complicated emotions and life changes that you now face in a safe, supportive space. You don’t have to go through this alone anymore.

Do I have to enjoy poetry to able to benefit from working with you?
While I am passionate about poetry, the answer is no. Poetry is used judiciously and only when an individual finds comfort and meaning in it.

What theories or body of knowledge do you use in your support work?
Through proven practices of guided personal reflection, meaning-making, and mindfulness, my clients learn coping skills that allow them to process, integrate, and reshape the complicated emotions and life changes connected to their loss. Through our work together, you will rediscover access to emotional strength and resilience that’s been inaccessible.

I have been influenced by the work of theologian Abraham Joshua Heschel, Buddhist nun Pema Chödrön, psychologists Francis Weller and Murray Bowen, and Buddhist teacher and Founding Director of the Zen Hospice Project, Frank Ostaseski.

How does your being an interfaith chaplain influence how you work with individuals?
You may be surprised to learn that chaplaincy training focuses on presence, reverent attentiveness, deep listening, loss, sorrow, forgiveness, and grace.

It is about creating a sanctuary space for witnessing and holding whatever emerges. If a client desires conversation about God, theology, religion, or prayer, these topics can and will be broached.

Will I be given “homework”?
I may ask you to be particularly attentive and mindful toward a situation or relationship dynamic. Or, I may encourage some exploratory writing or drawing focused on something we talked about, an experience you have had, or a poignant dream. At times, I have asked individuals to jot down some ideas on paper related to future intentions.

What is your education background?
I have a M.Ed. in School Counseling and a BA in Psychology. I am also a board certified (BCC) chaplain.

To schedule an initial complimentary phone call, please click here.

There are some griefs so loud/They could bring down the sky/And there are griefs so still/None knows how deep they lie…” — May Sarton

It takes outrageous courage to face outrageous loss.” — Francis Weller

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