Neil has worked with individuals and families in hospitals, hospice, schools, and private practice. Multiple lenses frame his practice, including the work of theologian Abraham Joshua Heschel, Buddhist nun Pema Chödrön, psychologists Francis Weller and Murray Bowen, physician/writer Rachael Naomi Remen and the practice of mindfulness through poetry.
Neil sees radical listening and reverent attentiveness as a spiritual practice. He meets individuals where they are and focuses on helping them increase their ability to cope with what are often extraordinary circumstances. The focus may be to increase one’s ability to manage change, vulnerability, anxiety, fear, and the overwhelming heartache that emerges. It may include assisting individuals to connect or reconnect to practices, people, and principles that matter most to them. Neil may use poetry to provide additional comfort, deepen the space, and invite reflection and opening.
Through proven practices of guided personal reflection, meaning-making, and mindfulness, my clients learn coping skills that allow them to process, integrate, and reshape the complicated emotions and life changes connected to their loss. They rediscover access to emotional strength and resilience that’s been inaccessible.
Words of Praise
“Working with Neil was a very powerful experience. I reached out to him in a moment of intense grief and personal transformation and he was very generous with his time, energy and gifts. My work with Neil was expansive, enlightening and challenging. Together we traced how early experiences of grief, loss and pain inform my current life and behavior and what interventions and next steps might make sense for my healing and well-being. Neil acted as a counselor, confidant and guide during a very difficult moment in my life, and I highly recommend his warm, engaging and flexible approach to others looking to work through their grief and pain and open up space for joy and meaning.” —DB
“Neil is wonderfully sensitive, attuned and insightful. His gentle nature is perfectly suited for his work with others. He gently, yet directly, addresses the issues that need more helpful discovery. His quiet nature and patience allow his clients to probe and discover what it is true in the moment and he reflects back and expands on what is expressed when it is helpful. He understands the pain and work of grief, and respects where people are in their process.
Neil brings in levity appropriately when useful; a very good characteristic in my opinion. Working with Neil has helped me tremendously! My grief is not gone; it has transmuted to something I can live with and gain insight from and that is truly a gift. I would recommend Neil to anyone wholeheartedly.” —RS
“The greatest gift I received in my time with Neil was being a recipient of his compassionate listening. I could feel him listening deeply, lovingly, and intently. Most of all, I could sense that he wasn’t just listening until he could interject with a response. The gift that I so sorely needed—but didn’t know it—was the space to be really heard. This allowed me to hear myself and to find the reserves within, which is where the answers I sought from Neil were the whole time. I’m deeply grateful for our work.” —SM
Read a two-page easy-to-print pdf that serves as an overview of grief and loss support, and organizes some of the website information in one place here.
Listen to any of the following podcast interviews featuring Neil. The first, Finding Hope, is with psychotherapist Mandy Bird. The second, The Mindfulness & Grief Podcast, is with thanatologist, mindfulness speaker, and author Heather Stang. The third, Good Grief, is with counselor, educator, and radio host Cheryl Jones. The fourth, Death By Design, is with storyteller, speaker, blogger, and producer Kimberly Paul. And the fifth, Grief, Gratitude, & The Grey In Between, is with Kendra Rinaldi.
About poetry: some may ask, do I have to like poetry to able to benefit from working with you? While I’m passionate about poetry, the answer is emphatically no. Poetry is used judiciously and only when an individual finds comfort and meaning in it.
Frequently Asked Questions are here.
Review Neil’s professional background here.
Read Neil’s Psychology Today profile here.
Read Neil’s short essay, “Poetry and Silence: Toward Creating a Healing Space” here.
Learn more by contacting Neil for a free online or phone consultation about how he may be able to support you. These sessions are generally 30-45 minutes in length.
“In this culture the soul and the heart too often go homeless. Listening creates a holy silence. When you listen generously to people, they can hear the truth in themselves, often for the first time. And in the silence of listening, you can know yourself in everyone. Eventually you may be able to hear, in everyone and beyond everyone, the unseen singing softly to itself and to you.”
― Rachel Naomi Remen